My turn for relationship problems
Let's go back 3 years ago, july 2009. I was constantly on omegle trying to find girls to talk to because I felt pretty lonely at that time. I found like a 100 different girls, most of them were actualy girls mind you. They proved it with tits and vags on their webcam. Anyway, after a while I come across this turkish girl who's really nice to me and really decent. So after talking for a few months we start an online relationship, things are going well, we like eachother even though we are the total opposite of eachother. After a year of talking to eachother every day I decide to go to turkey to meet her.
Let me tell you, I was there for 13 days, the best 13 days of my life. I went there alone, I never took a plane before, never went so far, never traveled alone and I'm a pretty shy guy. So it was quite an experience going there meeting her and her family. But her mother liked me, her dad was quite strickt but he was still nice. He didn't like it when I was too close to his daughter, her mother didn't like it either but we managed to keep it a secret we actually loved eachother. We weren't able to do much alone though, we went to the movies and that's about it of alone time besides a few minutes in her bedroom while her mother was in the living room (they live in an apartment btw, and no, we didn't do it). Anyway, leaving was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I had everything in turkey, friends, close family, a gf, a new start in life. But I had to go, we were both depressed but time heals all wounds.
Back in Belgium, I had no friends, me and my parents just respect eachother, no job. Basically I had nothing to look forward to in Belgium. A year passes and sometimes me and her end up in a discussion but it's normal if you're the total opposite of eachother. We decide to meet eachother again, this time when she's still in Ankara, where she goes to university, her parents live in Istanbul. Unfortunately her parents still didn't know about us being a couple and my parents didn't like it that I would go to her behind her parents back. Her parents might find out we met and if that would happen I would never get on their good side again.
I listened to my parents, I didn't go and told my gf to talk to her parents about us. She didn't. According to her her parents would never allow us to be a couple. After a all, I have no job and no university diploma. I accept, I'm not the perfect son inlaw but her parents have to find out sooner or later and it's better sooner because the longer she waits the more awkward it will be when she tells her parents. She can lie about the time we've been together but it might be too obvious we've been together since day one.
I keep telling her to talk to her parents but she never does, ontop of that we start to discuss more and more, we broke up a few times but got back together the same day or the next.
Also I was diagnosed with asperger, basically I have a lesser understanding of emotions than normal. I don't mind it, having less emotions is great but she gets angry really fast and every time I'm not sure why she's angry which makes her even more angry. Sex is a problem, she's a muslim after all so she doesn't want to do it. Even if I mention it she starts to get annoyed and recently she made it a taboo subject together with religion. It's not that I mind her being a muslim but I just like discussing and since I'm autistic I really don't understand why someoen would believe in a magical skydaddy.
So now we reached this point, this summer my brother will marry at the end of july and my sister will give birth to my first nephew in early august so I told her to come here to witness it all. Besides all that it's my birthday in july too. So I told her to come here because I would like my family to meet her and yes getting laid comes mind too and she knows it. Also I know when I first arrived in Turkey I was shocked by how everything is different. I also want to show her many things here and I have the feeling she doesn't truely know me because she never met me in my own house, in my own town in my own country. She doesn't know how I live and what I do irl the whole time. I at least visted her and I learned many things about her.
So she said she will do her best in coming here, she will go to summer school in England so she can come here, behind her parents' back but at least I can talk my way out of it if **** hits the fan. I also told her if we can't meet this summer I will break up and perhaps travel to Sweden because traveling is my second love. But now today she said her parents said something about a couple of professors doing summer lessons in Istanbul and she said she might go there instead of england. She also said I could come to her in Istanbul, we could meet without her parents perhaps. The whole idea of going to Istanbul and meeting alone seems kind of theoretical and I doubt her parents will accept her meeting me alone.
So, what do? I'm a nice guy, I don't want to hurt her but I've been slowly running out of patience for this relationship to work.