If anyone wonders why I'm posting in here of all places, it's because here a good amount of people know what I'm like, and my other choices of places to talk about this in the company of those who are familiar with me have the subject of this post lurking around. Plus, posting on a forum generally gets lots of answers.
So a while ago in the anything thread, I mentioned that I was crushing on a close friend of mine and comtemplating asking them out.
And a few days ago, like a boss, I did, and it worked. :IS2:
Though this person is a girl. This is very new territory to me. Not only is she a she, but she is older than me. I'm still 17 (though not for too much longer), and she turns 20 in April. Eek.
So yeah, we've been friends for almost a year. We'd talk about everything, we'd confide in each other, we'd listen to one another, we'd have fun, and we also happen to share arseloads of common ground. She's told me things like how I mean a lot to her, how I'm different to almost all of the people she knows, I understand her, how I am actually interested in what she does, and all sorts of other lovely things.
And I think that I really like her. Thanks to the amount of time I've known her, I'm quite certain that I have no SHOCKING HORRIBLE THINGS to uncover that would scare me away or anything. I'm always looking forward every day to be able to go ahead and talk to her, and I get so arse-clenchingly tense and all fluffy inside when I am waiting to do so. I'm very certain that my feelings are genuine.
Again, this is strange ground for me, as I am more used to other dudes and not icky girls, who I stay away from because of their cooties an' ****. One thing that gets me is this wierd feeling of insecurity, like something bad is gonna happen (I dun wanna lose her) and I can't imagine why I'd be so scared like that, I can't even see a threat!
Supposedly this feeling is normal. I imagine she'd be feeling the same way as she has not had a boyfriend for like 4 years. For a starter, I want these unjustified bad feelings to be gone with and destroyed, and, well, I want to try and make this last. Because yeah.
So do tell me, my team of unlikely heroes, what the bloody hell do I do? How do I make this thing last?
Tips:
Be a man.
Dont be a jerk.
Dont complain. (a little is ok, but no girl wants to listen to a man ***** and whine about things)
Be confident.
Be positive and optimistic.
Dont be clingy.
Dont feel threatened or jelous by her guy friends.
Be nice and friendly to her girl friends (this is a big one, because her friends WILL judge you and give their opinions about you to her. If her friends like you, youre set. if they dont, youre f*cked)
Randomly surprise her with cute things (it doesnt have to be fancy things, but simple "hope you have a good day" or "look forward to seeing you this weeked" note taped to her car, stuffed inside her purse, etc.
Take interest in her hobbies.
Support her in ANY decision she makes.
Groom yourself. Cut your fingernails. Smell nice. Wear clean clothes. Brush your teeth. Manscape. Dont be a slob.
Eat healthy: lay off the hot pockets, bagel bites and mountain dew.
Go on dates, museums, zoo's, amusement parks, always have something planned so the both of you can look forward to it and your time together...but dont overdo it...girls enjoy snuggling up on the couch and watching a movie from time to time (honestly I dont think ive ever watched a full movie with a girl on a couch... it always leads to other things haha)
When she asks what did you do today? Dont reply "Nothing much, just played video games and sat on the computer all day" Tell her something thats productive you did today...it makes for good conversation.
Be open with eachother.
Be yourself.
Wear condoms.
Wear condoms.
Always make sure she orgasims first. (unless she wants it differently)
check out this website its got good articles: http://www.askmen.com/
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