You want the realism mode servers. No kill cam, fewer (or absolutely no) kill messages, no side arms for most roles, no names, only your squad on the map shows, no mini map....
There are a lot of configurable options for server admins and only now are servers really starting to set up the kind of gameplay they want to enforce.
If you're looking for more rifle sway and all that other minutiae, you'll have to wait on mods.