Like the title says, I broke up with a girlfriend of 3 1/2 years and really need other people to recognize that it was the right move so I don't second-guess myself. I go to college with this girl, and we see each other everyday. So I figured that over christmas break it'd be ok for us to not see each other for at least a few days. I'm starting a job and wanted to get that underway so I could afford gas + car insurance before I went over to see her.
Anyway, she gets mad that I'm not coming over enough, and is acting very jealous and needy. We get into a huge fight and don't talk for about 12 hours. The next day, she calls and explains that it was all a big misunderstanding. I apologize for being a jerk, tell her she's really great and didn't deserve that, I promise I'll come see her and take her out, etc. I ask if everything is ok now, she says yes, and I genuinely think that everything is fine and we say good night (we've dated for over 3 years, I can usually tell when everything is ok).
The next day I get a call that my aunt has died. I call the girlfriend, tell her what has happened and that I'll call her after the ordeal is taken care of. She says she understands and will do anything to help. I say thanks and go to my aunt's house. The family is there and decides to go to the funeral home to settle some matters.
We go over to help, and I get a call from the girlfriend. I tell her I'm at the funeral home helping settle legal things and pick out urns, and she decides that then is the time to say "we need to talk, but it can wait until later." Of course I can't let something like that sit, and ask her to tell me what it is. She then goes into how she's upset and hurt etc. I am shocked that she would lie about being fine yesterday, but that she would bring up this issue while I'm at a funeral home discussing what will happen to my just-deceased aunt.
I pray there for a sign from God that I need to break up with her, and later in the night I get a call from the girlfriend still pissed. We have been fighting for about 1 1/2 years now, and she has totally changed from a positive, loving person to a negative, mean, judging individual. I decide that I just can't take it anymore, and tell her that even though I love her with all of my heart, I just can't handle this anymore, and that I don't think we will work out. We hang up, and I suppose it's all over.
Even though this isn't the best place to get opinions I'm sure, I'd just like to hear what you all have to say.
Anyway, she gets mad that I'm not coming over enough, and is acting very jealous and needy. We get into a huge fight and don't talk for about 12 hours. The next day, she calls and explains that it was all a big misunderstanding. I apologize for being a jerk, tell her she's really great and didn't deserve that, I promise I'll come see her and take her out, etc. I ask if everything is ok now, she says yes, and I genuinely think that everything is fine and we say good night (we've dated for over 3 years, I can usually tell when everything is ok).
The next day I get a call that my aunt has died. I call the girlfriend, tell her what has happened and that I'll call her after the ordeal is taken care of. She says she understands and will do anything to help. I say thanks and go to my aunt's house. The family is there and decides to go to the funeral home to settle some matters.
We go over to help, and I get a call from the girlfriend. I tell her I'm at the funeral home helping settle legal things and pick out urns, and she decides that then is the time to say "we need to talk, but it can wait until later." Of course I can't let something like that sit, and ask her to tell me what it is. She then goes into how she's upset and hurt etc. I am shocked that she would lie about being fine yesterday, but that she would bring up this issue while I'm at a funeral home discussing what will happen to my just-deceased aunt.
I pray there for a sign from God that I need to break up with her, and later in the night I get a call from the girlfriend still pissed. We have been fighting for about 1 1/2 years now, and she has totally changed from a positive, loving person to a negative, mean, judging individual. I decide that I just can't take it anymore, and tell her that even though I love her with all of my heart, I just can't handle this anymore, and that I don't think we will work out. We hang up, and I suppose it's all over.
Even though this isn't the best place to get opinions I'm sure, I'd just like to hear what you all have to say.