Nah mate, you guys probably have prebriefings, subbriefings, postbriefings and debriefings, chain of command and dedicated weapon roles. Its cool, its cool, but I just wanna play the game
As I said, try different groups. I'm not sure about lemon's group but the one I play with is a flat hierarchy. There is a CO and a few others, the positions are voted on every few months and the job mostly entails managing the server / forums. When we play there is a Squad leader, fireteams, and fireteam leads. players pick what role they want, and then grab what weapon they like for that role. Everyone is viewed as a leader, as such from your Candidate phase you will have the opportunity to lead fireteams, or act as Squad lead. This really helps to improve peoples play styles, and how they interact with their team, when they know how hard it can be to be ft/squad lead. In terms of breifings, for large missions (ops with other units) someone writes up a Opord ( describes whos *** your going to kick). Most of the time we just have a very quick After action report which is oriented towards improving yourself and your mates, so you get to tell the other guys what they could have done better, and perhaps have someone tell you what you could have done better...
Our group is all level headed guys, many are ex military; comprised of Canadians, Americans, Germans, Brits, and a few others. An incase you'r wondering the youngest in the unit is probably ~22ish age, with the average being ~30-40's, so you wont have a 13 year old telling you to call him "sir".
Ehh I digress, Fact is you can find any kind of unit you like, from the more democratic as I described above, to the units full of twat 13 year olds who demand respect instead of earning it. You would be surprised how many people there are out there just like you who want to have a good time in a team without BS. The worst that could happen is you hop on TS with one of these groups, hear a 13 year old and disconnect...
Here's the link to the group I play with, hop on TS some time
http://www.7-75th.com/index.php