I know that a significant portion of the gaming population are super insecure types that freeze up around girls so I thought I'd toss out a book recommendation that changed and is still changing my life.
"Six Pillars of Self-Esteem" by Nathaniel Branden. Not cheezy self help, it's actually very dense (one of those books you have to re-read sentences to fully understand the meaning).
Check it out if you're one of those. I know I was.
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EDIT: Quick addendum. Try brutal honesty for a week and see if you feel dramatically different. This isn't mentioned a whole lot in the book but that combined with the book (I'm still reading it actually, only 1/3 the way through... this "change" is happening almost overnight) for me was dynamite, almost literally.
What I mean? When you pass that person in the hallway who says "How ya doing?", you know, the typical meaningless greeting, and you feel like **** cause you're depressed and alone and never had a girl say "I feel ****ing horrible". It'll trip people out and you'll get a good laugh. Girls love honesty more than anything else. It's kinda that and confidence in combination that makes you superman in "da club" or whatever.
I swear I walked up to a cutie (only an 8, but it was a small bar and she was the best in there ) one night after focusing really hard on all my negative emotions (discussed in the book), walked up to her, and said exactly what I was feeling "You're making me nervous". She cracked up, and instantly I went into pimp mode.
Try it. Course I'm not doing this for a week, it's for life for me now.
Brutal honesty = you become a badass.
"Six Pillars of Self-Esteem" by Nathaniel Branden. Not cheezy self help, it's actually very dense (one of those books you have to re-read sentences to fully understand the meaning).
Check it out if you're one of those. I know I was.
:IS2:
EDIT: Quick addendum. Try brutal honesty for a week and see if you feel dramatically different. This isn't mentioned a whole lot in the book but that combined with the book (I'm still reading it actually, only 1/3 the way through... this "change" is happening almost overnight) for me was dynamite, almost literally.
What I mean? When you pass that person in the hallway who says "How ya doing?", you know, the typical meaningless greeting, and you feel like **** cause you're depressed and alone and never had a girl say "I feel ****ing horrible". It'll trip people out and you'll get a good laugh. Girls love honesty more than anything else. It's kinda that and confidence in combination that makes you superman in "da club" or whatever.
I swear I walked up to a cutie (only an 8, but it was a small bar and she was the best in there ) one night after focusing really hard on all my negative emotions (discussed in the book), walked up to her, and said exactly what I was feeling "You're making me nervous". She cracked up, and instantly I went into pimp mode.
Try it. Course I'm not doing this for a week, it's for life for me now.
Brutal honesty = you become a badass.
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